Releasing Expectations of Self
We often place pressure upon ourselves without realising it. It often comes from the desire to be perfect: the perfect wife/husband, daughter/son, friend …… We also imagine that other people have high expectations of us that we are afraid we cannot meet. This is especially true if you are a ‘giver’ or a ‘people pleaser’.
We waste a lot of time and energy trying to meet these imaginary expectations because we never stop to ask ourselves if they are true or not. More often than not we have created our own vision of how things should be and how we should behave and what we should do! We create a version of how our lives are supposed to be and expect it to happen! We lose the flow and the appreciation of the moment as well as our peace of mind.
So much of our personal power, becomes enveloped in frustration and resentment from a seed of unquestioned expectations. They can be great or small, positive or negative, however, all undermine the gift that is the present moment.
Releasing Expectations of Others
We also contribute to further unhappiness by having too many unrealistic expectations of other people. We expect them to do more for us, to show us more appreciation, to give more, to think and act like we do. We can spend a lot of time in the realm of expectation that it steals away the precious time of Now that we can never retrieve. When we live in this way, we are constantly living in the anticipation of wanting something that may never appear.
When expectations are not met the wanting grows stronger and this leads to disappointment and distress. We can feel disillusioned and fill with tension and impatience as we feel denied of the results we believe we deserve.
Expectations of a Healthy Relationship
We all have fundamental needs within a relationship, whether it be an intimate life partner or a close friend or family member. We have the right to feel accepted and respected and this forms the foundation of our healthy boundaries. According to Psychology Today these needs fall into three distinct areas.
Sense of belonging/companionship
Affection – verbal and physical
Emotional support and validation
It is when we place too much control anticipating and imagining how these needs are met e.g. how often, when, where, how….. that we lose the gift of spontaneity and the celebration of how we all have our own ways of caring, loving and sharing.
Possibilities of the Moment
Just when you least expect it someone can create something wonderful that far outweighs anything you could have possibly imagined. We can get in our own way and block our own path to happiness through too many unnecessary expectations. Remember Cinderella never asked for a prince, she asked for a night off and a dress! Anything is possible when we live in the flow.
How wonderful to free our minds of expectations and to open to responding to the moment and connect with the world of possibilities. Instead of constantly projecting into the future and the unknown, we greet our lives in a more mindful way and receive life as it unfolds.
Just For Today
Live today without any expectations just let it flow and appreciate every moment. Expect nothing – appreciate everything. What takes away our peace is trying to make life match the image we have in our minds, our version of how things are supposed to be. Life is full of possibilities when we release expectations. Begin just for today and then see how small changes in your perception can make huge differences.
“Act without expectation.” – Lao Tzu
“Peace begins when expectation ends.” – Sri Chinmoy
“Truly loving another means letting go of all expectations. It means acceptance, even celebration of another’s personhood.” – unknown
“The more you expect in return for what you’re doing, the more your heart feels the loneliness and emptiness.” – Radhanath Swami
Creating Your Life from the Inside Out
Use the above to create your own practice, to nourish and balance your Soul energy and so create the Life you were meant to live! Creating a Life of Flow! You will resonate at a higher frequency and attract to you the same, thus flowing in resonance with The Law of Attraction.
“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly!”
You can begin today to heal your life from the Inside Out. ~ Jules
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Jules Blythe is a former Corporate Training & Development Consultant and now runs her own practice in France working online as a Master Energy Practitioner and Holistic Life Coach. She helps people to become empowered to create their lives from the Inside Out and to discover their True Purpose, so that they can create more, peace, love and happiness in their lives. .
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